Posts made in February, 2012
Danger Spotter Plus
Want a quick way to empower timid or worried children? In a conversation where I was pointing out Eva‘s son’s ability to spot danger, he came up with the title “danger spotter!” Kids love this. They take pride in their danger spotter abilities, and no longer consider being cautious or careful a weaknesses. However, I recently saw the other side. I was playing with a...
Read MoreShowing You Care vs Caring
How do you know someone cares? They remember your birthday, they call for no reason, they think about you, they take care of you, they put you first, they make you feel special…? While intellectually I knew the difference between caring and showing it, some part of me couldn’t tell the two apart. How did I know? I felt guilty for forgetting a birthday or even a name, not calling...
Read MoreThe Brilliance of “I can’t”
Who thought I’d ever have anything good to say about my life-long complaint: “I can’t.” C’mon. Even the parenting approach I designed has CAN DOs. But I’m starting to see it’s brilliance: it’s my get-out-of trouble card. I’m currently in Carolyn Scarborough’s Backyard Pearls Writing Telecourse. I signed up because I always wanted to...
Read MoreBully-proofing with STRENGTHs
Even big kids get picked on. A 10-year old boy recently told me about his embarrassment when a smaller boy threw something and hit him. At first he said, “Stop that! It hurts!” But when another boy said, “That shouldn’t hurt you. He’s smaller than you!” he didn’t know what to do except walk away. As expected, they laughed. What can you tell a child that...
Read MoreSay What You See Book
