Posts Tagged "“say what you see”"
Wow! I just had a coaching session with Eva Sim-Zabka, and in under 10 minutes she got to the core of my complaint: “Everything takes too long!” As a child I was called “slow as molasses,” particularly when it came to getting into the car. In our family of 6, I was “always” the last one. It happened at the dinner table, too. After everyone was done eating and...Read More
When you hit the wall trying to get your child to do something he or she doesn’t want to do, check your strategy. Are you trying to change what your child wants? “Of course you want to brush your teeth. You don’t want them to fall out, do you?” To your credit, this strategy shows an awareness of what motivates people – wanting. Every parent knows that if only their...Read More
“My 11-year old just isn’t responsible. He leaves his socks on the floor and doesn’t put away my tools after borrowing them. How do I find responsibility in that?” When this came up in a recent class, Eva took the challenge. “Well, let’s look. Does he ever do anything responsible like feeding the cat?” Right on cue, Mom said, “Actually he does. He...Read More
While recovering from pneumonia last month, I had a lot of down time, so I used the “opportunity” for some deep pondering in hopes of finding some hidden belief that, if revealed and finally heard, could reduce the pain. BTW, pneumonia hurts! You don’t want to get it. I promise. I found one. It showed up as an indignant cry from my childhood that “Life should not...Read More
Want a quick way to empower timid or worried children? In a conversation where I was pointing out Eva‘s son’s ability to spot danger, he came up with the title “danger spotter!” Kids love this. They take pride in their danger spotter abilities, and no longer consider being cautious or careful a weaknesses. However, I recently saw the other side. I was playing with a...Read More