Posts Tagged "personal growth"

I want it! You’re not my friend anymore!

I want it! You’re not my friend anymore!

Do these situations sound familiar? At a recent in-service training for preschool teachers, I was asked a few questions about children fighting. These could come up at home or at school, so I wanted to share them with you. Although these sample responses were designed for younger children, they actually apply to older children as well. That's no surprise when you remember that the Language of...

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Does Fair Mean Equal?

Does Fair Mean Equal?

Ever since we were little, my older sister Colleen has been concerned with "fairness." She was aware of every discrepancy between the two of us, from the amount of attention we got from our parents to the number of apple slices we each had on our plates at snack time. Since we were a Language of Listening® household, my parents used Success Training to turn this hyper-awareness into a...

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Do Thoughts Cause Feelings?

Do Thoughts Cause Feelings?

    "Wake" by Colleen Blackard (Ballpoint pen drawing)       My dear friend and colleague Dr. Theresa Kellam, a licensed psychologist, focuses on feelings in her therapy practice. In Language of Listening®, we focus more on thoughts and beliefs in our life coaching. Both produce life-changing results. I remember Theresa once telling me that thoughts arose from emotions....

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I Love My Body (Seriously!)

I Love My Body (Seriously!)

Growing up as a female in 21st century America, I have had my fair share of body issues. I actually didn't notice or start worrying about my weight until I was 14, which I think makes me one of the lucky ones (I know an elementary schooler on a self-imposed diet).  I distinctly remember looking in the mirror at age 12, and thinking how pretty I was. Being perfect exactly the way I am has...

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Loss or Security – Which Is More Real to You?

Loss or Security – Which Is More Real to You?

Feelings are important guides for personal growth. When you hold an adaptive belief (a belief that was important for your survival as a child but no longer serves you), feelings arise that you cannot miss because they are always the ones you don't like. Recently I have been examining my need for safety and uncovering just how insecure I feel in life, so it's no surprise that feelings of...

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