Posts Tagged "right"

Part 3 – What’s Perfect About Perfectionism

Part 3 – What’s Perfect About Perfectionism

Where does imperfectionism come from? The short answer is “you.” In Part I, I said that perfectionism should actually be called imperfectionism because it’s all about finding imperfections in order to make things perfect. Then in Part 2, I gave you tools for becoming a true perfectionist — someone who finds the perfection that is already there. Now in Part 3, you can use those...

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Now That I Know…

Now That I Know…

“Every parent should know this!” That was my first thought over 20 years ago, when I learned the principles and practices of relationship-based parenting from Dr. Garry Landreth. A live coaching session with a mother of a 1-year-old daughter and 3-year-old son reminded me of that phrase. This was her description of her son’s behavior in her initial inquiry, shared with...

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SAY WHAT YOU SEE® to Yourself First

SAY WHAT YOU SEE® to Yourself First

In her blog article “Applying ‘Say What You See’ to Adult Relationships” Monica Cravotta related my work to that of her friend and coach Chris Douglas. Monica came to the conclusion that “in a very basic way, we’re no different than our little ones in feeling upset when our basic emotional needs are unmet.” So true! In trying to bring understanding to...

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Wrong 4

You should read tchow’s comment on “Wrong 3:” “…At this point, there is no concept of ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ in one’s head. The challenge of deciding between the two is gone and all I’m left with is raw, unaltered and pure experience…” That’s exactly what I would like to do here–provide a public forum for...

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Wrong 3

Wrong 3

Applying more logic to the collapse equation “not liking = wrong” — if things have to be wrong for me to not like them, then clearly I believe I have to like everything since I believe everything is “right” somehow. Dang-it! It’s so true. Just like Betsyyyy said in her comment on the previous entry “Wrong 2” Funny how you can know you think...

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