Posts Tagged "tantrum"

Now That I Know…

Now That I Know…

"Every parent should know this!" That was my first thought over 20 years ago, when I learned the principles and practices of relationship-based parenting from Dr. Garry Landreth. A live coaching session with a mother of a 1-year-old daughter and 3-year-old son reminded me of that phrase. This was her description of her son's behavior in her initial inquiry, shared with permission: Whenever he...

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Swim Class Success Training

Swim Class Success Training

  Ever wonder what a parent coaching call with me sounds like? This one started with a text: My almost 4-year-old threw a mega tantrum at swim class today 🙁   I tried  hard to do SAY WHAT YOU SEE! Tried to be super empathic, match her emotion and everything went to heck. She had been begging me to do swim classes because her sister was doing them, so I signed her up. Well, today...

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Tantrum Relief — Meeting the Three Basic Needs

Tantrum Relief — Meeting the Three Basic Needs

The difference between the Language of Listening® approach to dealing with tantrums and that of most other programs is basically this: in a tantrum, others try to calm children down; we facilitate tantrums in a way that allows children to calm themselves down. It all starts with the Three Basic Needs for Growth: experience, connection and power. Here's how to meet those needs to facilitate a...

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Restaurant Outburst Reversed

Restaurant Outburst Reversed

"You can't go back in until you settle down!" Who hasn't had to remove their child from a store or restaurant at one time or another? Most of us know what that is like. I happened upon such a scene one December night at the downtown Austin holiday stroll apparently just after a mom had removed her 5-year-old son from a restaurant. I didn't realize they had previously been inside. All I saw was...

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Bedtime Brilliance

Bedtime Brilliance

The seeds of listening were planted long ago. My daughter Betsy at age 23, and the children she worked with reaped the rewards. For example, Betsy was babysitting one weekend for three children: 5-year-old Adele, 3-year-old Sam and 18-month-old Jimmy (names are changed). When bedtime came around, they all had separate rooms, so with Jimmy on her hip, she got Adele settled first. Sam was...

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