Posts Tagged "wishes"
Tantrum Relief — Meeting the Three Basic Needs
The difference between the Language of Listening® approach to dealing with tantrums and that of most other programs is basically this: in a tantrum, others try to calm children down; we facilitate tantrums in a way that allows children to calm themselves down. It all starts with the Three Basic Needs for Growth: experience, connection and power. Here's how to meet those needs to facilitate a...
Read MoreShould I End Indecision, Or…?
I have always been indecisive. I like to joke that it's because of my astrological sign: Libra (the scales) which is all about weighing options. According to an astrology website, "Libra's indecisiveness is caused by the fear that a wrong decision will...cause turmoil in their lives." Sounds about right. Another classic case of my ambiguity is my name. My own mom didn't like decisions either,...
Read MoreEasy Brain Hack: Reversing Guilt
Yesterday morning, my mom and I were talking about the phrase "I should have known..." It's a family story, full of self-blame, passed down and shared between and within generations. The main problem with this phrase is that it implies that you're somehow wrong for not knowing something. Think about that a minute. At any moment, you either know something or you don't. That's just the nature...
Read MoreMixed-Up Traditions
If you had any rough moments with your children over the holidays, remember that you can still go back, SAY WHAT YOU SEE and reconnect with a do-over. Here's one about mixed-up traditions: During the holiday season, I was overseeing free art time in a 5-year-old classroom. One little girl, Leah, came from a Jewish family that celebrated Hanukkah. However, most of her classmates celebrated...
Read MoreBad Driver or Being Driven?
I just had the strangest moment while driving. I saw a car tailgating a van as it turned onto a main road. My first reaction was, "Bad driver!" because driving that close scares me, but that thought was suddenly and unexpectedly replaced with a STRENGTH. Given that the car kept the exact same distance from the van during the entire turn and for a short while after, it struck me that the car's...
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