Day 4

Day 4: Expanding Awareness

You should read tchow’s comment on “Wrong — Day 3”:

“…At this point, there is no concept of ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ in one’s head. The challenge of deciding between the two is gone, and all I’m left with is raw, unaltered, and pure experience…”

—Timothy

That’s exactly what I would like to do here in this Coaching You blog — provide a public forum for sharing of breakthroughs and insights, and in so doing deepen our insights and generate more breakthroughs like Timothy’s for us all.

One other thing I would love to know from Timothy and you is this:

“To what do you attribute your insights and breakthroughs?”

While I have the same opinion of ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ as Timothy, it currently rests as an awareness and requires conscious effort to disregard. Somehow he adapted his realizations to everyday life and now lives from them without effort. It’s just how he sees the world.

That’s a breakthrough.

The best avenue for me is a kind of extreme acceptance and inquiry into how a belief works for me, as I share in my Breakfast with Sandy videos. How about you?

Sometimes my unconscious beliefs peek out in conversations with others. For example, a friend just brought up ‘independence.’ When I started to look at that one today, my first thought was:

“I don’t have an issue with that, but what the heck. I’ll look.”

I am already amazed at the awareness it has brought. And as suspected, it is related to my current line of inquiry into ‘wrong.’ So far, I can see ‘wrong’ as a superpower I use to remain independent, but it’s also my Kryptonite.

BTW, if you’re wondering what this is all about, this is far more than a mental exercise (though that’s fun, too). It’s about creating a world where we all can live together at ease and in mutual support with permission to be as great as we knew we were when we were small children… before ‘wrong’ entered our minds.

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7 thoughts on “Wrong — Day 4”

  1. tchow

    Discrimination as portrayed by the story Jonathan Livingston Seagull – being the only bird in the flock that lived his life by his own standards instead of those that were set by his predecessors, he was banished as an Outcast.

  2. tchow

    The sources from which my insights and breakthroughs are derived are countless and exist in many different shapes and forms, some of which I had not even anticipated. The most important practice, without doubt, is personal reflection. I spend most of my day contemplating and reflecting, tying what I have learned from one experience to existence in general.

    Breakfast With Sandy is a great medium for individuals to do just that! It is thought provoking and stimulating; you can’t leave without learning something each visit.

    In regards to your last point, Ms. Blackard, about “…creating a world where we all can live together at ease and mutual support…” — have you ever read the book Jonathon Livingston Seagull?

    I would recommend that book to anyone willing and ready to open their mind, and to face the uncertainty, vulnerability and discrimination that inevitably follow.

    Before I was a student of Enlightenment, I was thinking inside the box. After becoming a student of Enlightenment, I learned to think outside the box. Now that I understand the Enlightenment, I realize there is no box.

    Cheers,
    Timothy

  3. Sandy

    Timothy, absolutely eloquent! “…no box.” How true!

    I read that book way back when I was in college. Might have been new then. It was very popular — considered “heavy.” Sadly, I don’t consciously recall anything about it. But who knows; it probably planted an early seed for how I see the world now. Exposure to new possibilities does that.

    Discrimination as in the heightened ability to tell things apart?

  4. Sandy

    Funny thing about that book. Given that my biggest fear was being “shunned,” no wonder I forgot or blocked out that book. I had a vague feeling that it was sad and I didn’t like something about it. Now I know why.

  5. Sandy

    Then I guess I challenge the idea that such things inevitably follow enlightenment. My breakthrough experience has been exactly the opposite (Breakfast with Sandy “Ready I-III”). And if you watch children at an early age, they do not discriminate.

  6. Colleen Blackard

    I just realized how fitting your statement at the top of the blog is. Here you’ve created a space where no one can be wrong!

  7. Sandy

    I laughed when I noticed that, too. Our patterns will out!

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