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How do I know if I’m a good parent?
There's a real reason you might not know what kind of a job you are doing as a parent. Rachel Norman, Authorized Language of Listening® Coach and author of A Mother Far from Home blog, shared this huge epiphany with her newsletter readers and gave me permission to share it with you. It makes our modern dilemma crystal clear. ... So anyway, I was reading this one excerpt [from a parenting book from the 1990's] and it hit me — one reason moms today are so strung out and stressed and lacking confidence mothers of decades before...
read moreBig Reactions To Cancellations
The world is, collectively, going through a very unusual time right now. People all over the world are trying to avoid exposure to a virus that we still don't understand completely. Schools and offices are closing, social gatherings are being cancelled, and everyone is being asked to work or stay at home. Along with all of these disruptions come lots of feelings: fear for the safety of yourself and your loved ones; uncertainty about the future—how long it will last, how bad it might get; stress from lots of sudden, often rough transitions;...
read moreSuccess Training—Helping Littles Wait
For toddlers and preschoolers, waiting is extra hard!! This may be a universal maxim, but that doesn’t make trying to work from home while your littles are home with you any easier. This does! Improve your child's self-control and improve your relationship with your child with Success Training. Success Training Starts Right Where Your Child Is First, ask your child how long they CAN wait and start there. For some children, it may be 5 minutes, for some 10, and for some, maybe only 30 seconds! However long it is, you can set a timer, and have...
read more4 Tips To Help Kids Wait
“Look! Look at me! Look what I can do! Look what I made!” Sound familiar? Many parents are getting a crash course in the unique challenges and rewards of working from home with children. It’s hard for everybody—your kids need your attention, and spending time with your children is important to you, too. So when you both want to spend time together, but other things need to get done, what can you do? That question is your hint: figure out what you and your child CAN DO! 1. Set aside talk time The first thing you CAN DO helps you and...
read moreMoney—What if it really could “just show up”?
I've been looking at the concept of abundance lately and discovered I've been very sad that my heart's desire to have money just show up has not panned out. Before you jump in to offer advice on how that's not realistic, let me say that I'm keenly aware of how fantasy-like that sounds. But I am also aware that something about it is right for me. It has to be because it is something I have always wanted, and in keeping with what I teach—you are always right about what you want somehow—I decided to track down the source of that "want" to...
read moreResponding to Rudeness, Stubbornness and Defiance
Language of Listening® Coach, Camilla Miller of Keeping Your Cool Parenting shares what every parent needs to know when their child is acting out. Reprinted from her blog with permission. The Most Powerful Way to Handle a Rude, Aggressive or Defiant Child. Her cheeks red, kicking out at anyone who dared come close. “You can’t make me!” she howled. And she was right! This was my life, and my daughter’s defiance, rudeness and disrespect were pushing my buttons. No. End. All these thoughts would rush through my mind: “If she...
read moreHow to Respond to “Bad” Intentions
Responding to your child's intentions rather than their actions can bring out their greatness in an instant. When a child makes a mistake or accidentally damages something or hurts someone, recognizing the child's true intention and pointing it out tells them that you understand the real them. The relief they feel is instant, and knowing you are on their side allows them to apologize from the heart. You can see this demonstrated by the little boy who squirted my tee-shirt with red juice in the first chapter of my book, SAY WHAT YOU SEE®. But...
read morePretending to Be an Adult
If someone "acting like a child" annoys you, you might have had to grow up too soon. How to step more fully into your adulthood, reclaim your childhood, and regain your patience all at the same time? Julia Kurskaya, parent coach and graduate of our Coaches Training program, walks you through her breakthrough, shared here by permission: In my favorite fifteen-minutes-of-peace while I put my toddler down for a nap, something came to me today. I realized what could be lurking behind my persistent feeling of...
read more“Not fair!” Could Your Child Be Right?
It happened in less than five minutes. 10 YO David went from screaming, “Not fair!” when he thought he was losing, to accepting loss graciously. How? I was helping a mom with a group of 3rd-5th graders. They had just finished a craft and were bouncing off the walls with pent-up energy but had to stay inside. The mom suggested they play “Hot Potato” with a little stuffed bear. I sat with them in their wiggly, noisy circle on the floor as she explained the rules: “When the music starts, toss the bear to the person on your left, and...
read moreTrouble at Preschool
How do you react when your child tells you they did something that they know you won't like and just looks at you? If you brace yourself for a show-down, or start correcting or lecturing, that's a reaction to a judgment. The judgment might be something like "rebellious" or maybe even "stubborn," if you know your child knew you wouldn't like what they did, but did it anyway. How can you stop judging and get on your child's side instead? One of our readers, Krystalle of Austin, TX, used the powerful tool of WAITING to give herself the chance...
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