Posts by Sandy

Independent or Alone?

Independent or Alone?

I used to be embarrassed about receiving help, until I discovered the reason why. In a previous post, Help Is All Around, I talked about my embarrassment over receiving EMS services for a false-alarm. My embarrassment made total sense when I uncovered a belief that was telling me: "being helped = being saved = incompetent."  Incompetent was definitely not OK with me! That belief evaporated...

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Boundaries, Family Rules, & Strong-Willed Children… Oh My!

Boundaries, Family Rules, & Strong-Willed Children… Oh My!

Annoyed, angry, surrounded by chaos? Rachel Norman of A Mother Far from Home (one of our coaches in training), and I recorded an in-depth call on boundaries. We cover it all in the video in Rachel's post, reprinted here from her blog with permission.   Recently we moved into a new house (to us). About a week or two into living there I found myself confused. I seemed more angry than...

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Trying to Stop a Temper Tantrum? 7 Things You Might Be Missing

Trying to Stop a Temper Tantrum?  7 Things You Might Be Missing

Licensed Language of Listening® Coach, Lauren Tamm, outlines seven things you might be missing if you are trying to stop a temper tantrum. Reprinted from her blog with permission. My daughter’s had a heck of a week when it comes to temper tantrums. It all culminated into one massive meltdown last night, when she was so inconsolable that she cried herself to sleep, stark-naked. But before I...

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The Running Leap—Not Just for Kids

The Running Leap—Not Just for Kids

Instead of seeing your life as three steps forward, two steps back, and feeling frustrated most of the time, what if you knew the two steps back were also moving you forward? That's how a running leap works—you have to back up a few steps in order to succeed with the leap. Knowing that gives you a powerful tool—a new way to see and manage the actions you take after you hit what feels like a...

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Fostering Resiliency after a Soul-Crushing Event

Fostering Resiliency after a Soul-Crushing Event

Disappointments can be hard to handle, especially if they are your child's. It's even harder if you have the automatic urge to protect him or her from disappointment and make things all better. Here is a masterful and touching example written by Rachel Macy Stafford of what happens when you use Language of Listening® coaching skills to follow the child's lead instead.  I didn’t know my...

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