Responding to Rudeness, Stubbornness and Defiance

Responding to Rudeness, Stubbornness and Defiance

Language of Listening® Coach, Camilla Miller of Keeping Your Cool Parenting shares what every parent needs to know when their child is acting out. Reprinted from her blog with permission.   The Most Powerful Way to Handle a Rude, Aggressive or Defiant Child. Her cheeks red, kicking out at anyone who dared come close. “You can’t make me!” she howled. And she was right! This was my...

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How to Respond to “Bad” Intentions

How to Respond to “Bad” Intentions

Responding to your child's intentions rather than their actions can bring out their greatness in an instant. When a child makes a mistake or accidentally damages something or hurts someone, recognizing the child's true intention and pointing it out tells them that you understand the real them. The relief they feel is instant, and knowing you are on their side allows them to apologize from the...

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“Not fair!” Could Your Child Be Right?

“Not fair!” Could Your Child Be Right?

It happened in less than five minutes. 10 YO David went from screaming, “Not fair!” when he thought he was losing, to accepting loss graciously. How? I was helping a mom with a group of 3rd-5th graders. They had just finished a craft and were bouncing off the walls with pent-up energy but had to stay inside. The mom suggested they play “Hot Potato” with a little stuffed bear. I sat with...

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Trouble at Preschool

Trouble at Preschool

How do you react when your child tells you they did something that they know you won't like and just looks at you? If you brace yourself for a show-down, or start correcting or lecturing, that's a reaction to a judgment. The judgment might be something like "rebellious" or maybe even "stubborn," if you know your child knew you wouldn't like what they did, but did it anyway. How can you stop...

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Sibling Fights—Empowering Kids with Mediation

Sibling Fights—Empowering Kids with Mediation

How can you be on both your children's sides when siblings start fighting? Zuzana Mackova, parent coach and graduate of our Coaches Training program, shows you how. Instead of jumping in to solve her sons' fight, she WAITED, used SAY WHAT YOU SEE®, then turned the problem-solving over to them in an empowering mediation. Their solution for sharing surprised her! Loud Voices Standing in the...

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Boundaries, Family Rules, & Strong-Willed Children… Oh My!

Boundaries, Family Rules, & Strong-Willed Children… Oh My!

Annoyed, angry, surrounded by chaos? Rachel Norman of A Mother Far from Home (one of our coaches in training), and I recorded an in-depth call on boundaries. We cover it all in the video in Rachel's post, reprinted here from her blog with permission.   Recently we moved into a new house (to us). About a week or two into living there I found myself confused. I seemed more angry than...

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