Posts Tagged "bully"
What if my kids get teased?
If you were ever teased about your appearance as a child and didn’t know how to respond, you may worry about the same thing happening to your kids. A mom of two boys asked*: “I’m wondering if you have any advice on helping children who have noticeable physical differences. Both of my boys have prominent ears and the oldest starts kindergarten soon. I know it is only a matter of...
Read MoreBossy Stopping
What’s the one thing you can do to stop “BOSSY” and get cooperation at the same time? SAY WHAT YOU SEE. Commands like: Give the dog some water. Put your bike away. Get in the car now! Take out the trash. …and a million others, tell children what to do and model “bossy” at the same time. Who needs to be told what to do, not just once but over and over again?...
Read MoreTeasing & Name-calling
When name calling is done to tease or be hurtful, the dynamics are different than with a friend who chooses an unacceptable term of endearment as discussed in What’s in a Name. Suggesting your child say what she wants to be called, which can be helpful in the case of a friend, might only give an adversary more ammunition to do the opposite, especially since adversarial name-calling is...
Read MoreBully-proofing with STRENGTHs
Even big kids get picked on. A 10-year-old boy recently told me about his embarrassment when a smaller boy threw something and hit him. At first, he said, “Stop that! It hurts!” But when another boy said, “That shouldn’t hurt you. He’s smaller than you!” he didn’t know what to do except walk away. As expected, they laughed and called him names. What can...
Read MoreEnd Bullying
I just had to share this wonderful excerpt from Una Spenser’s online dairy. You’ll see why: Apparently, Korax, the class bully, had finally gotten around to Zuna. It’s a Montessori classroom and quite often the children work sitting on mats on the floor. Zuna was sitting on the floor when Korax came over and stomped on her leg. In response, Zuna looked him in the eye and...
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