Posts Tagged "“can do”"
What’s in a Name?
"A rose by any other name..." doesn't actually work for children. Names matter. If you were ever called a name you didn't like, you know what I mean. Kimberly Maeder shared this CAN DO moment that helped her daughter, age 5, stand up for herself. When my daughter said, "I don't like being called cute, and my friend at school calls me cute," I said what I saw, "You don't like being called cute,...
Read More“My Kids Ignore Me”
Two weeks ago Brenda joined our Playtime Class upset that her kids ignored her. Individually, they were easy; all three together drove her crazy with their chasing and fighting. She'd been trying to use How To Talk So Kids Will Listen... (another great program) for a couple of years, but nothing worked for the wildest moments. After learning how to SAY WHAT YOU SEE and add CAN DOs, she shared...
Read MoreBedtime Brilliance
The seeds of listening were planted long ago. My daughter Betsy at age 23, and the children she worked with reaped the rewards. For example, Betsy was babysitting one weekend for three children: 5-year-old Adele, 3-year-old Sam and 18-month-old Jimmy (names are changed). When bedtime came around, they all had separate rooms, so with Jimmy on her hip, she got Adele settled first. Sam was...
Read MoreTrue Self-Motivation
When you hit the wall trying to get your child to do something he or she doesn't want to do, check your strategy. Are you trying to change what your child wants? "Of course you want to brush your teeth. You don't want them to fall out, do you?" To your credit, this strategy shows an awareness of what motivates people — wanting. Every parent knows that if only their children wanted to brush...
Read MoreEverything In Its Place
"My 11-year old just isn't responsible. He leaves his socks on the floor and doesn't put away my tools after borrowing them. How do I find responsibility in that?" When this came up in a recent class, Eva took the challenge. "Well, let's look. Does he ever do anything responsible like feeding the cat?" Right on cue, Mom said, "Actually he does. He feeds the cat every day without needing to be...
Read MoreSay What You See® Book
Mobile Video Classes
Talk to a Coach
Proud Mama Ad
