Posts Tagged "coaching"

Un-Hating

Un-Hating

What if we did not believe in hate? Or in vilifying people for any reason? 50 people in Orlando* and countless more would be alive and uninjured today. We can begin to dismantle hate and vilification now, starting by how we explain to ourselves and our children the heartbreaking actions taken by one man, the shooter. If you hate and vilify him and the group of people to whom he claimed loyalty,...

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No Friends Allowed!

No Friends Allowed!

When you try to SAY WHAT YOU SEE, and "it doesn't work," that phrase tells you that you are trying to manage your child's behavior instead of coaching them. Kids can tell the difference, and so can you by their resistance. Here's my coaching for Ali from the UK on how to flip a no-way-out situation for her 5 YO into fun. Her little cousin was coming over whether she wanted her to or...

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How Things Really Work

How Things Really Work

"Do what you should, and things will work out." Does that sound familiar to you? When this belief statement came up in a private coaching session with a client I recognized it immediately because I was raised to believe it, too. "Do what you should, and things will work out," was touted as the basic formula for success and was a close relative of the mid-western work ethic of "hard...

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Is Positive Discipline Even Possible?

Is Positive Discipline Even Possible?

If you have been struggling with positive discipline, this may be why: the word "discipline" is loaded! It's loaded with childhood associations like punishment and force. Those associations can make positive discipline the proverbial "square peg" that you have been trying to fit into the "round hole" of discipline — the receptor in your brain has already decided what discipline is, and positive...

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3 Steps for Reconnecting with Your Mother

3 Steps for Reconnecting with Your Mother

Your relationship with your mother affects your entire life. If yours is challenging, now is the perfect time to transform it into one of love, respect and connection. When you do, it will transform your life. In a coaching conversation with a young woman about her highly reactive mother, I recommended three steps for transforming their relationship. She graciously gave her permission...

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