Posts Tagged "communication"
“Uh-oh! I think my arm needs a diaper!”
Toddlers objections to doing things we want them to do can show up in many ways. One of parents’ least favorite ways is a tantrum. After reading my article NPR—What’s Behind A Temper Tantrum? a mom of a toddler asked me this (shared with permission): I have a 2.5 year old who has been acting out a lot lately especially with diaper changes. How I would use Language of Listening with a...
Read MoreStubborn. Now what?
Does stubbornness run in your family? If you are seeing it in your child, you might think they got it from you. Each time I am asked what to do about a stubborn child, my answer is the same: SAY WHAT YOU SEE®. Stubborn is one of those things that we are sure we “see,” but is not really happening. However, it is what we are thinking. The descriptive nature of SAY WHAT YOU SEE gets you...
Read MoreRage Reversal—Getting Kids Heard
In an instant, his world flipped 180 degrees. My son transformed from serene and peaceful to boiling rage. My mouth collapsed to the concrete as I stood in the parking lot of my daughter’s preschool. His voice thundered. His eyes intensified. His face turned crimson red. On the outside I was fighting to stay calm, but on the inside I was terrified. His anger explosions seem to come out of...
Read MoreShowing You Care vs Caring
How do you know someone cares? They remember your birthday, they call for no reason, they think about you, they take care of you, they put you first, they help you feel special…? While intellectually I knew the difference between caring and showing it, some part of me couldn’t tell the two apart. How did I know? I felt guilty for forgetting a birthday or even a name, not calling...
Read MoreSAY WHAT YOU SEE® to Yourself First
In her blog article “Applying ‘Say What You See’ to Adult Relationships” Monica Cravotta related my work to that of her friend and coach Chris Douglas. Monica came to the conclusion that “in a very basic way, we’re no different than our little ones in feeling upset when our basic emotional needs are unmet.” So true! In trying to bring understanding to...
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