Posts Tagged "cooperation"
Gaining Toddler Cooperation – Bed, Bath, Mealtime
Q: “My biggest parenting challenge at the moment is that my two year old daughter is a little bit strong-willed. Meal times, bath times and basically everything in life is a challenge when she’s already decided whether or not she will be doing what I ask. I can negotiate, I can plead and I can try to coax her – all to no avail. She also has a routine – I’m quite...
Read MoreCreate Shopping Cooperation
What do you do when your child wants everything in the store? Instead of trying to reign in their wants, check your boundaries (physical, social or personal). It’s OK to buy only what you can or want to buy, and validate the rest with wishes. An odd thing happens with wishes. When you explore the details of children’s wishes—what they love about it, what they might...
Read MoreBoundary Trouble?
All boundaries are not equal. Here are three types: Natural boundaries: “Fire is not for touching, because you will get burned.” “Poison ivy is not for picking, because your skin will blister and itch.” “Baby sister is not for shaking, because that will hurt her brain.” Social boundaries: “Clothing is worn in...
Read MoreBossy Stopping
What’s the one thing you can do to stop “BOSSY” and get cooperation at the same time? SAY WHAT YOU SEE. Commands like: Give the dog some water. Put your bike away. Get in the car now! Take out the trash. …and a million others, tell children what to do and model “bossy” at the same time. Who needs to be told what to do, not just once but over and over again?...
Read MoreBedtime Brilliance
The seeds of listening were planted long ago. My daughter Betsy at age 23, and the children she worked with reaped the rewards. For example, Betsy was babysitting one weekend for three children: 5-year-old Adele, 3-year-old Sam and 18-month-old Jimmy (names are changed). When bedtime came around, they all had separate rooms, so with Jimmy on her hip, she got Adele settled first. Sam was...
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