Posts Tagged "fail"

The Running Leap

The Running Leap

Have you ever seen a child jump over a stream? They don't usually walk up to the stream, stop, and try to jump from there. They walk up, stop, and then back up far enough to get a running start. Backing up enables them to take a running leap and successfully clear the stream without falling in and getting wet. In that situation, you would never mistake a child backing up to take a running leap...

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Fostering Resiliency after a Soul-Crushing Event

Fostering Resiliency after a Soul-Crushing Event

Disappointments can be hard to handle, especially if they are your child's. It's even harder if you have the automatic urge to protect him or her from disappointment and make things all better. Here is a masterful and touching example written by Rachel Macy Stafford of what happens when you use Language of Listening® coaching skills to follow the child's lead instead.  I didn’t know my...

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Success Training, Not Micro-Managing

Success Training, Not Micro-Managing

Our friend Rachel Macy Stafford's post, The Manager in My Home & the Five Words that Changed Everything, documents her shift from micro-managing to empowering her daughters. She requested my assistance when dozens of questions flooded in from parents all over the world about how to put perfectionism aside and provide guidance without micro-managing and criticizing.  One of the points I made...

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Flipping Failure to Success

Flipping Failure to Success

Sometimes our fears and breakthroughs are two sides of the same coin. One I flipped was fear of failure. As a child, I often followed a pattern of sticking to things I already knew or was sure I could master. That was me being a perfectionist — "Do it right or not at all." I couldn't allow myself to fail. The fear lived in my mind like a stern commandment: "You can't fail!" I didn't like it,...

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