Posts Tagged "failure"
The Running Leap
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Have you ever seen a child jump over a stream? They don’t usually walk up to the stream, stop, and try to jump from there. They walk up, stop, and then back up far enough to get a running start. Backing up enables them to take a running leap and successfully clear the stream without falling in and getting wet. In that situation, you would never mistake a child backing up to take a running...
Read MoreFostering Resiliency after a Soul-Crushing Event
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Disappointments can be hard to handle, especially if they are your child’s. It’s even harder if you have the automatic urge to protect him or her from disappointment and make things all better. Here is a masterful and touching example written by Rachel Macy Stafford of what happens when you use Language of Listening® coaching skills to follow the child’s lead instead. I...
Read MoreHow To Correct a Perfectionist Child
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My post How to Help a Perfectionist Child on Medium.com struck a chord! Comments and questions poured in on my colleague Rachel Macy Stafford’s Hands Free Revolution page after she shared it with her readers. With Rachel’s permission, I’m answering the most popular question here. To the mother who asked the question, thank you for inspiring this post! (If you would like...
Read MoreFlipping Failure to Success
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Sometimes our fears and breakthroughs are two sides of the same coin. One I flipped was fear of failure. As a child, I often followed a pattern of sticking to things I already knew or was sure I could master. That was me being a perfectionist — “Do it right or not at all.” I couldn’t allow myself to fail. The fear lived in my mind like a stern commandment: “You...
Read MoreChildren Don’t Back Away; They Back Up for a Running Leap
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You’re in the park with your two children watching the water trickling along a small stream. Your toddler’s eyes gleam as you take his hands and jump him over it. “Again, again!” he cries completely delighted with his success. Meanwhile, your kindergarten daughter sees a wider place downstream, backs way up to take a running leap, and… Where do they learn that? Children seem to...
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