Posts Tagged "fairness"
“Not fair!” Could Your Child Be Right?
It happened in less than five minutes. 10 YO David went from screaming, “Not fair!” when he thought he was losing, to accepting loss graciously. How? I was helping a mom with a group of 3rd-5th graders. They had just finished a craft and were bouncing off the walls with pent-up energy but had to stay inside. The mom suggested they play “Hot Potato” with a little stuffed bear. I sat with...
Read MoreBig Sister Tattling
Language of Listening® is a different way of speaking and thinking. It's a coaching language that takes you out of the role of managing your children's behavior, and puts you on their side as their life coach—letting them solve their own problems and helping them see their hidden STRENGTHs, so they can manage their own behavior. Here's a Q&A dialog I had with a mom (8-mo twins, 3 YO, 5...
Read MoreWhy Setting Natural Consequences Is Hard
Children bickering and fighting can derail even the most mindful parent. Here's my advice to Marilyn (children 5, 4) for how to get back on track. QUESTION: I find setting natural consequences hard at times. So my son and daughter each got these paper police cars that you create by folding. I made them each their own. Well, my son thought it was funny to crush my daughters police car. As a...
Read MoreToo Fun to Leave — Not Fair!
Is it fair to put kids in difficult situations and then expect them to behave? Here's what Leigh from Albany asked: My older son (who is 4) was dazzled by the bookstore. We had never been there before. We went because there was a story time, but he was way too amped to sit for the story. We went with a friend who has a son my younger son’s age (19 months old). My older son ran around the...
Read MoreDoes Fair Mean Equal?
Ever since we were little, my older sister Colleen has been concerned with "fairness." She was aware of every discrepancy between the two of us, from the amount of attention we got from our parents to the number of apple slices we each had on our plates at snack time. Since we were a Language of Listening® household, my parents used Success Training to turn this hyper-awareness into a...
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