Posts Tagged "family"

Stubborn. Now what?

Stubborn. Now what?

Does stubbornness run in your family? If you are seeing it in your child, you might think they got it from you. Each time I am asked what to do about a stubborn child, my answer is the same: SAY WHAT YOU SEE®. Stubborn is one of those things that we are sure we "see," but is not really happening. However, it is what we are thinking. The descriptive nature of SAY WHAT YOU SEE gets you out of your...

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Helping Parents Who Haven’t Asked

Helping Parents Who Haven’t Asked

"If you want to be part of this family, then you'd better..." Imagine you saw your neighbor using harsh criticism, public scoldings and coercive statements like that with her 9 YO adopted daughter to "make her behave." If you knew a better way to work with children and even had a book that could tell her not only how to create willing cooperation but how to do it in a way that would improve...

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Part 2 – What’s Perfect About Perfectionism

Part 2 – What’s Perfect About Perfectionism

  How do you find the perfection in everything, even things you don't like? Here's how we did it in the previous post with "perfectionism," the kind you didn't like.  In Part 1, you experienced: 1. Starting from where you are—believing "perfectionism" is a flaw 2. Looking at perfectionism objectively—discovering it's not what you thought, it's imperfectionism 3. Finding the perfection...

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Taming Step-Parent Guilt

Taming Step-Parent Guilt

Question from a guilt-ridden step-parent: I am seeking advice for myself that will hopefully help me to connect with my step-daughter.   Long story short...my stepdaughter came to live with us when she was 6 years old she is now 14. Her biological mother is not part of her life. I see her as one of my own daughters, we do not say step-mom or step-daughter, (I have two other daughters 12...

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Peaceful Family Gatherings

Peaceful Family Gatherings

Whether you love holidays or hate them, holidays bring people together. But if just thinking about being with relatives or certain friends kicks off your fight/flight/freeze response, you can use these tips to bring peace to any moment: Intentions / Wishes.   A little background: Intentions and wishes are desires that arise from what you like and love. To me, what you like and love is who...

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