Posts Tagged "force"
Is Positive Discipline Even Possible?
If you have been struggling with positive discipline, this may be why: the word “discipline” is loaded! It’s loaded with childhood associations like punishment and force. Those associations can make positive discipline the proverbial “square peg” that you have been trying to fit into the “round hole” of discipline — the receptor in your brain has...
Read MoreBoundary Trouble?
All boundaries are not equal. Here are three types: Natural boundaries: “Fire is not for touching, because you will get burned.” “Poison ivy is not for picking, because your skin will blister and itch.” “Baby sister is not for shaking, because that will hurt her brain.” Social boundaries: “Clothing is worn in...
Read MoreWhen “Can=Have To”
Whenever I’m nearing a big breakthrough, I can tell. As a belief that I don’t like begins to show up in my life, my energy drops, I withdraw and feel depressed. That makes sense before a breakthrough because at the moment, the belief feels very, very true, which can make it very, very real, and in this case, very, very sad…because I was looking at giving up. Luckily, as a...
Read MoreTrue Self-Motivation
When you hit the wall trying to get your child to do something he or she doesn’t want to do, check your strategy. Are you trying to change what your child wants? “Of course you want to brush your teeth. You don’t want them to fall out, do you?” To your credit, this strategy shows an awareness of what motivates people — wanting. Every parent knows that if only their...
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