Posts Tagged "goal"
Bedtime—Kicking to Stay Awake
Question: My son basically only hits /pinches/ kicks to avoid going to sleep. Any advice on how to facilitate this behavior without facilitating the procrastination? (For instance, if I redirect him to kick the bed instead of me, then he’ll kick the bed for literally half an hour or more if I let him, no matter how tired he is).—Mom (child age 2), Austin, TX Answer: Thank you for your...
Read MoreDismantling Problems
Not all problems are problems, unless you are an imperfectionist. Then all problems are equal, and each one “has to” be fixed. When I woke up staring at the dead bugs in my ceiling lamp, I suddenly realized that despite all the growth I’ve had around perfectionism, at first glance, I was still seeing problems everywhere I looked! Little ones and big ones that all needed to be...
Read MoreFrom Criticism To Support
“If you needed to lose weight, what would be most motivating? You are getting chubby. I’m not buying you any more clothes until you lose weight. Or: Let’s take a walk after dinner. I’ll let you make the salad. I love you just the way you are, exactly as you are.“ —Rachel Macy Stafford That was how Rachel opened her viral blog post, “To...
Read MoreDoing the Impossible $$
I was emailing a writer friend, Laurie Cosbey, and this popped out. If you want to see my self-coaching process, this is me, tracking down a false belief to arrive at a powerful Say What You See phrase for myself: 9:23 AM email to Laurie: Yes, SWYS is a simple how-to for getting present – the place of all experience, connection and power. There they are – the three basic needs*...
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