Posts Tagged "like"

Should I End Indecision, Or…?

Should I End Indecision, Or…?

I have always been indecisive. I like to joke that it's because of my astrological sign:  Libra (the scales) which is all about weighing options. According to an astrology website, "Libra's indecisiveness is caused by the fear that a wrong decision will...cause turmoil in their lives." Sounds about right. Another classic case of my ambiguity is my name. My own mom didn't like decisions either,...

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I Am My Mother

I Am My Mother

I recently got a peek into a deeper level of awareness about my fragile identity. As it turns out, I am not me; I am my mother. Here's what I mean. For years, I thought I didn't know what I liked or wanted. I remember back in high school realizing that I had no opinions of my own, and promptly getting some! But I still balk when people ask me what I want. As super-coach Eva and I teach in our...

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Who are you really?

Who are you really?

On July 16, my daughter Colleen posted this image on her Facebook page with the comment: "Cheers to my Grandma, who would've been 85 today. Celebrating with her favorites: wine and a donut!" Lots of likes on that one. It's hard for friends and family to see a donut without thinking of Ruth. My grandmother used to tell the story of a time a few months into Mom's first marriage when she had become...

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“Important” Breakthrough

“Important” Breakthrough

You say what's important to you. Sounds logical, but through most of my life, I looked to my circumstances or other people for permission to decide if something was important to me -- including myself! I didn't see it this way at the time, but I actually gave others the power to say what was important for me. That's what you do when you can't say what you like or want without fear of...

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Can you love a child you don’t like?

Can you love a child you don’t like?

The disturbing question "Can you love a child you don't like?" comes up more than you can imagine. This dilemma can cause painful feelings of guilt for parents or teachers who have mixed feelings about a child, or harder yet, for those who find one child easier to like than another. When asked, my answer is always, "Of course," but it's been hard to explain why. Today I can: Like and love are NOT...

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