Posts Tagged "need"

Getting Back on the Same Team

Getting Back on the Same Team

You know those days with your children when nothing you do or say seems to work, when no validation of their wants is enough, and every tiny thing that comes up turns into a huge drama? I do, and I can assure you it feels so frustrating! There are days I feel like nothing is enough to fill the enormous need for power my kids have, especially my older daughter. There are few things that trigger...

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Ending Reactive Parenting

Ending Reactive Parenting

Ever feel like you are stuck in a cycle of negativity? A mom of two young children was, and she expressed her frustration in the comments of one of Rachel Macy Stafford's Hands Free Mama blog posts The Manager in My Home & the Five Words that Changed Everything. Thanks to a standing invitation from Rachel to assist her readers and share our public dialogs, I was able to offer this mom an...

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I want it! You’re not my friend anymore!

I want it! You’re not my friend anymore!

Do these situations sound familiar? At a recent in-service training for preschool teachers, I was asked a few questions about children fighting. These could come up at home or at school, so I wanted to share them with you. Although these sample responses were designed for younger children, they actually apply to older children as well. That's no surprise when you remember that the Language of...

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Seeing With New Eyes

Seeing With New Eyes

Here's a fresh look at our Coaching Model from one of our readers. Not only did Suzanne learn the Language of Listening, but has a tip to share that helps her apply it to challenging situations with her children. I wanted to share a recent experience with you. Lately I found myself slipping back into my old ways, and I wasn't sure at first what I was doing wrong. I was still trying to visualize...

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If you don’t like the answer, the question is wrong.

If you don’t like the answer, the question is wrong.

"Why would I do that?" When you question yourself about something you did, and you don't like the answer, the question is wrong. Do these answers sound familiar: "Because I was stupid," "Because I was selfish," Because I was irresponsible..."?  You probably learned answers like those when you were a child. You didn't like them, but you believed them because you thought you had to in order to...

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