Posts Tagged "perspective"
Dismantling Problems
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Not all problems are problems, unless you are an imperfectionist. Then all problems are equal, and each one “has to” be fixed. When I woke up staring at the dead bugs in my ceiling lamp, I suddenly realized that despite all the growth I’ve had around perfectionism, at first glance, I was still seeing problems everywhere I looked! Little ones and big ones that all needed to be...
Read MoreFight-Flight-Freeze: A Natural Ladder from Anxiety to Freedom
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Our fight-flight-freeze response is much maligned. An article in Psychology Today says this “survival-oriented acute stress response” offers three options that amount to: battle, escaping, or becoming paralyzed and “numbing out.” All three have negative connotations in our culture; and since none rely on reason, no wonder we see this fight-flight-freeze response as a...
Read MorePositive Guidance for Negative Self-Talk
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I smiled when I received this glowing comment in my email from a Montessori guide and mom of 2: “Language of Listening” has been without a doubt THE MOST POWERFUL approach to working with children that I have ever encountered in my 9 years as a Montessori guide (and now 4 years as a parent). I could tell you so many stories about how it’s helped me guide my very spirited 4-year...
Read MoreWhen “Can=Have To”
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Whenever I’m nearing a big breakthrough, I can tell. As a belief that I don’t like begins to show up in my life, my energy drops, I withdraw and feel depressed. That makes sense before a breakthrough because at the moment, the belief feels very, very true, which can make it very, very real, and in this case, very, very sad…because I was looking at giving up. Luckily, as a...
Read MoreOn-Time with Empowered Children
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Would you like to be able to make sure things get done on time without rushing or over-managing your children? How about putting perfectionism aside and providing guidance without criticism or negative correction? Here are the 7 suggestions that I shared with readers of Rachel Macy Stafford’s powerful Hands Free Mama blog at her request in the comments section of her post “The...
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