Posts Tagged "process"

Being Nice or Not?

Being Nice or Not?

Telling children, "Be nice!" can have unexpected consequences. You probably know that the non-specific command, "Be nice!" is not particularly helpful for children. But worse than that, it can result in the opposite behavior. Here's how: When "Be nice!" is spoken in a corrective or threatening tone, as in "Be nice [or else]!" kids hear it as, "Do whatever it takes to keep the peace." Without...

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Do Thoughts Cause Feelings?

Do Thoughts Cause Feelings?

    "Wake" by Colleen Blackard (Ballpoint pen drawing)       My dear friend and colleague Dr. Theresa Kellam, a licensed psychologist, focuses on feelings in her therapy practice. Eva and I focus more on thoughts and beliefs in our coaching. Both produce life changing results. I remember Theresa once telling me that thoughts arose from emotions. I couldn't quite wrap my...

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