Posts Tagged "processing"

Being Nice or Not?

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Being Nice or Not?

Telling children, "Be nice!" can have unexpected consequences. You probably know that the non-specific command, "Be nice!" is not particularly helpful for children. But worse than that, it can result in the opposite behavior. Here's how: When "Be nice!" is spoken in a corrective or threatening tone, as in "Be nice [or else]!" kids hear it as, "Do whatever it takes to keep the peace." Without...

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Ending Exclusion Fears

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Ending Exclusion Fears

It's been great having my two daughters, Colleen (26) and Betsy (24) home for the summer. They are always in and out, but when they are in, they are really in and "present"... and so am I. We have great conversations. Even our complaint sessions end up with validation and often deep heart-to-heart breakthrough processing moments. That's just how we live—thank you, Language of Listening®! One...

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