Posts Tagged "punishment"
Is Positive Discipline Even Possible?
If you have been struggling with positive discipline, this may be why: the word “discipline” is loaded! It’s loaded with childhood associations like punishment and force. Those associations can make positive discipline the proverbial “square peg” that you have been trying to fit into the “round hole” of discipline — the receptor in your brain has...
Read MorePart 3 – What’s Perfect About Perfectionism
Where does imperfectionism come from? The short answer is “you.” In Part I, I said that perfectionism should actually be called imperfectionism because it’s all about finding imperfections in order to make things perfect. Then in Part 2, I gave you tools for becoming a true perfectionist — someone who finds the perfection that is already there. Now in Part 3, you can use those...
Read MoreFrom Criticism To Support
“If you needed to lose weight, what would be most motivating? You are getting chubby. I’m not buying you any more clothes until you lose weight. Or: Let’s take a walk after dinner. I’ll let you make the salad. I love you just the way you are, exactly as you are.“ —Rachel Macy Stafford That was how Rachel opened her viral blog post, “To...
Read MoreBoundary Trouble?
All boundaries are not equal. Here are three types: Natural boundaries: “Fire is not for touching, because you will get burned.” “Poison ivy is not for picking, because your skin will blister and itch.” “Baby sister is not for shaking, because that will hurt her brain.” Social boundaries: “Clothing is worn in...
Read More“Parenting done right” or “Child done wrong”?
An image of a return receipt with the caption “Parenting done right” was posted on a social media site after the holidays. The reason for the return of the Wii game was included on the receipt: “Son was put on the naughty list, had to watch it being returned.” That receipt inspired a Yahoo Parenting post that set off a storm of comments defending rewards and punishment...
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