Posts Tagged "questions"

Being Nice or Not?

Being Nice or Not?

Telling children, "Be nice!" can have unexpected consequences. You probably know that the non-specific command, "Be nice!" is not particularly helpful for children. But worse than that, it can result in the opposite behavior. Here's how: When "Be nice!" is spoken in a corrective or threatening tone, as in "Be nice [or else]!" kids hear it as, "Do whatever it takes to keep the peace." Without...

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Fear to Fun in 5 Steps

Fear to Fun in 5 Steps

Fear! It started with a marketing campaign I launched for our handbook, SAY WHAT YOU SEE®. I was fine putting something up on the website, but the idea of marketing by putting myself out there made me want to run away. Here are the 5 steps I took to move from debilitating fear to fun in only 10 days! STEP 1: Start wherever you are and say what you see to yourself. (Hint: Friends and coaches who...

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Ending Endless Why’s

Ending Endless Why’s

  "Yea, but why?" after you've given your best answer to a tough question can be frustrating to hear.  What do you say now? This sneak peek from The Missing Step in Parenting (the new expanded version of the SAY WHAT YOU SEE Handbook) gives you some practical pointers:   Many children pick up the pattern of using questions instead of statements from the adults around them. That’s...

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