Posts Tagged "resistance"
Responding to Rudeness, Stubbornness and Defiance
Language of Listening® Coach, Camilla Miller of Keeping Your Cool Parenting shares what every parent needs to know when their child is acting out. Reprinted from her blog with permission. The Most Powerful Way to Handle a Rude, Aggressive or Defiant Child. Her cheeks red, kicking out at anyone who dared come close. “You can’t make me!” she howled. And she was right! This was my...
Read More“Uh-oh! I think my arm needs a diaper!”
Toddlers objections to doing things we want them to do can show up in many ways. One of parents' least favorite ways is a tantrum. After reading my article NPR—What’s Behind A Temper Tantrum? a mom of a toddler asked me this (shared with permission): I have a 2.5 year old who has been acting out a lot lately especially with diaper changes. How I would use Language of Listening with a diaper...
Read MoreGaining Toddler Cooperation – Bed, Bath, Mealtime
Q: “My biggest parenting challenge at the moment is that my two year old daughter is a little bit strong-willed. Meal times, bath times and basically everything in life is a challenge when she's already decided whether or not she will be doing what I ask. I can negotiate, I can plead and I can try to coax her - all to no avail. She also has a routine - I'm quite religious about it- I...
Read MoreHelping Parents Who Haven’t Asked
"If you want to be part of this family, then you'd better..." Imagine you saw your neighbor using harsh criticism, public scoldings and coercive statements like that with her 9 YO adopted daughter to "make her behave." If you knew a better way to work with children and even had a book that could tell her not only how to create willing cooperation but how to do it in a way that would improve...
Read MoreLust Buster
In most boundary situations with children, the simple SAY WHAT YOU SEE® phrase, "You want _____," is the best place to start. The power of validating what children want cannot be overestimated. When children know that it's OK to want what they want, they don't have to fight to prove it. You've probably heard children quickly escalate from "I want it," to "I need it," to tears and a tantrum,...
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