Posts Tagged "rule"

How Things Really Work

How Things Really Work

"Do what you should, and things will work out." Does that sound familiar to you? When this belief statement came up in a private coaching session with a client I recognized it immediately because I was raised to believe it, too. "Do what you should, and things will work out," was touted as the basic formula for success and was a close relative of the mid-western work ethic of "hard...

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Boundary Trouble?

Boundary Trouble?

All boundaries are not equal. Here are three types: Natural boundaries:   "Fire is not for touching, because you will get burned."   "Poison ivy is not for picking, because your skin will blister and itch."   "Baby sister is not for shaking, because that will hurt her brain."   Social boundaries:   "Clothing is worn in public, because your body is private."   ...

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Too Fun to Leave — Not Fair!

Too Fun to Leave — Not Fair!

Is it fair to put kids in difficult situations and then expect them to behave? Here's what Leigh from Albany asked: My older son (who is 4) was dazzled by the bookstore. We had never been there before. We went because there was a story time, but he was way too amped to sit for the story. We went with a friend who has a son my younger son’s age (19 months old).   My older son ran around the...

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