Posts Tagged "“say what you see”"

Success Training—Helping Littles Wait

Success Training—Helping Littles Wait

For toddlers and preschoolers, waiting is extra hard!! This may be a universal maxim, but that doesn’t make trying to work from home while your littles are home with you any easier. This does! Improve your child's self-control and improve your relationship with your child with Success Training. Success Training Starts Right Where Your Child Is First, ask your child how long they CAN wait and...

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4 Tips To Help Kids Wait

4 Tips To Help Kids Wait

“Look! Look at me! Look what I can do! Look what I made!” Sound familiar? Many parents are getting a crash course in the unique challenges and rewards of working from home with children. It’s hard for everybody—your kids need your attention, and spending time with your children is important to you, too. So when you both want to spend time together, but other things need to get done, what...

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Big Sister Tattling

Big Sister Tattling

Language of Listening® is a different way of speaking and thinking. It's a coaching language that takes you out of the role of managing your children's behavior, and puts you on their side as their life coach—letting them solve their own problems and helping them see their hidden STRENGTHs, so they can manage their own behavior. Here's a Q&A dialog I had with a mom (8-mo twins, 3 YO, 5...

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Stubborn. Now what?

Stubborn. Now what?

Does stubbornness run in your family? If you are seeing it in your child, you might think they got it from you. Each time I am asked what to do about a stubborn child, my answer is the same: SAY WHAT YOU SEE®. Stubborn is one of those things that we are sure we "see," but is not really happening. However, it is what we are thinking. The descriptive nature of SAY WHAT YOU SEE gets you out of your...

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“I hate you. You’re mean!”

“I hate you. You’re mean!”

Do you dread hearing, "I hate you. You're mean!" from your normally sweet child? Here's what's behind it and a reply to turn things around. What's Behind It Kids often say "I hate you. You're mean!" to parents, grandparents, or other children in a boundary situation when they can't do or have something they want. Particularly if that phrase troubles you or you have made it a taboo, they say it to...

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