Posts Tagged "self-control"
Trying to Stop a Temper Tantrum? 7 Things You Might Be Missing
Language of Listening® Coach, Lauren Tamm, outlines seven things you might be missing if you are trying to stop a temper tantrum. Reprinted from her blog with permission. My daughter’s had a heck of a week when it comes to temper tantrums. It all culminated into one massive meltdown last night, when she was so inconsolable that she cried herself to sleep, stark-naked. But before I share...
Read MoreFight-Flight-Freeze: A Natural Ladder from Anxiety to Freedom
Our fight-flight-freeze response is much maligned. An article in Psychology Today says this “survival-oriented acute stress response” offers three options that amount to: battle, escaping, or becoming paralyzed and “numbing out.” All three have negative connotations in our culture; and since none rely on reason, no wonder we see this fight-flight-freeze response as a...
Read MoreTwo Sticks and a Do-Over
Guest post by Zuzana, a graduate of our Coaches Training Program: We were on our way to a shop. The ground was covered by fresh snow, and my two sons (4 yr and 18 mo) were scribbling pictures into snowdrifts with sticks they found under the old chestnut tree. They were laughing, running, having fun. Before we entered the shop, I asked boys to find a place to leave their sticks. Mike, the older...
Read MoreCreate Shopping Cooperation
What do you do when your child wants everything in the store? Instead of trying to reign in their wants, check your boundaries (physical, social or personal). It’s OK to buy only what you can or want to buy, and validate the rest with wishes. An odd thing happens with wishes. When you explore the details of children’s wishes—what they love about it, what they might...
Read MoreStop Reacting, Start Exaggerating
“I know what I should do, but I often react, instead of responding with understanding.” For every parent who feels wrong for reacting in the moment, I was right there with you when my kids were little. I’d read all the books, and knew what to do, but there were times when I just couldn’t do it. The thing that made a difference for me was realizing that there had to be...
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