Posts Tagged "social agreement"

Removing Judgment—A Simple Exercise

Removing Judgment—A Simple Exercise

  This really happened: SAY WHAT YOU SEE (SWYS): “You are biting my shirt.”   (I didn’t like that.)   CAN DO: “That’s not OK with me. Must be something else you can bite. Hmm. Here, you can bite this!”   I offered the child the hem of his own shirt. He looked at me, grinned, then bit his own shirt. He walked around with his shirt in his mouth for a few minutes,...

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Boundary Trouble?

Boundary Trouble?

All boundaries are not equal. Here are three types: Natural boundaries:   "Fire is not for touching, because you will get burned."   "Poison ivy is not for picking, because your skin will blister and itch."   "Baby sister is not for shaking, because that will hurt her brain."   Social boundaries:   "Clothing is worn in public, because your body is private."   ...

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