Posts Tagged "tears"

Create Shopping Cooperation

Create Shopping Cooperation

What do you do when your child wants everything in the store? Instead of trying to reign in their wants, check your boundaries (physical, social or personal). It's OK to buy only what you can or want to buy, and validate the rest with wishes.  An odd thing happens with wishes. When you explore the details of children's wishes—what they love about it, what they might imagine they could...

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“Mommy, why are you crying?”

“Mommy, why are you crying?”

When it comes to expressing emotions in front of your child, how much is too much? Recently, a parent asked about expressing strong emotions like sadness or anger. She's going through a rough time in her life, and was worried that she was crying in front of her child too often. She is also arguing with her husband a lot, and she wondered if I thought parents should limit those kinds of...

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When “Can=Have To”

When “Can=Have To”

Whenever I'm nearing a big breakthrough, I can tell. As a belief that I don't like begins to show up in my life, my energy drops, I withdraw and feel depressed. That makes sense before a breakthrough because at the moment, the belief feels very, very true, which can make it very, very real, and in this case, very, very sad...because I was looking at giving up. Luckily, as a personal growth...

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Why I Let Kids Cry

Why I Let Kids Cry

When you hear a child crying, what is your first reaction? If it's a child you know, you might have an impulse to rush to his aid and fix the problem for him ASAP. If you can't do that, you may feel the need to do something to at least distract him or cheer him up. I don't. If you follow our blog or have been to any of our recent presentations, you have probably heard about our technique...

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Whining: Can You Be Helpless?

Whining: Can You Be Helpless?

It's easy to smile and say, "Sure!" when a child asks you for help pleasantly. But what about when the child whines and says "I can't"? If that puts you on edge, this article is for you. What stops us from helping children who are acting helpless is the belief that by providing help we will be affirming that they need it. But if we withhold assistance and try to push them into...

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