Posts Tagged "wait"

Fight-Flight-Freeze: A Natural Ladder from Anxiety to Freedom

Fight-Flight-Freeze: A Natural Ladder from Anxiety to Freedom

Our fight-flight-freeze response is much maligned. An article in Psychology Today says this "survival-oriented acute stress response" offers three options that amount to: battle, escaping, or becoming paralyzed and "numbing out." All three have negative connotations in our culture; and since none rely on reason, no wonder we see this fight-flight-freeze response as a primitive piece of mental...

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2 YO’s Sharing Peacefully (in less than a minute)

2 YO’s Sharing Peacefully (in less than a minute)

Picture yourself sitting with a group of 2 YO's in front of a large room full of parents. The children are squirming and waiting to go back to their classroom. One little girl has several toys in her lap including a particularly enticing pink sparkle pony, and the little girl sitting next to her, whose current challenge is grabbing toys from other kids, has none. When you see...

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I want it! You’re not my friend anymore!

I want it! You’re not my friend anymore!

Do these situations sound familiar? At a recent in-service training for preschool teachers, I was asked a few questions about children fighting. These could come up at home or at school, so I wanted to share them with you. Although these sample responses were designed for younger children, they actually apply to older children as well. That's no surprise when you remember that the Language of...

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When Needs Appear to Conflict

When Needs Appear to Conflict

"How can I provide the support and attention my three-year old needs from me and help him to be more independent at the same time?" is a question that many parents face. (See aceiatx's question in her comment on CAN DOs Work for All Ages) The short answer is:  Provide support and attention when it's OK with you, and model independence when it's not. SWYS: "You are done eating and want me to...

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