Posts Tagged "when"

“No! It’s mine!”—How to Respond When Other Parents Are Watching

“No! It’s mine!”—How to Respond When Other Parents Are Watching

The "it's mine" phase is difficult for most parents to handle, especially in front of other parents because many people still see it as selfish. Actually, it's simply natural and important for children to meet their need for power by controlling their things. Controlling things is a great way for them to do that, and way better than trying to control their parents, other kids, or grabbing other...

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2 YO’s Sharing Peacefully (in less than a minute)

2 YO’s Sharing Peacefully (in less than a minute)

Picture yourself sitting with a group of 2 YO's in front of a large room full of parents. The children are squirming and waiting to go back to their classroom. One little girl has several toys in her lap including a particularly enticing pink sparkle pony, and the little girl sitting next to her, whose current challenge is grabbing toys from other kids, has none. When you see...

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I want it! You’re not my friend anymore!

I want it! You’re not my friend anymore!

Do these situations sound familiar? At a recent in-service training for preschool teachers, I was asked a few questions about children fighting. These could come up at home or at school, so I wanted to share them with you. Although these sample responses were designed for younger children, they actually apply to older children as well. That's no surprise when you remember that the Language of...

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Best Tip Ever For Sharing

Best Tip Ever For Sharing

Dr. Laura Markham made a great point in a Q&A on 4-year-old's struggles with sharing: letting a child keep a toy as long as needed allows the child to experience the joy of truly sharing when he or she is ready. Her additional points about the child's need to cry out a frustration that is probably not about the toy at all, but something bigger, and how to play out an issue Playful...

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