If you don’t like the answer, the question is wrong.
“Why would I do that?” When you question yourself about something you did, and you don’t like the answer, the question is wrong. Do these answers sound familiar: “Because I was stupid,” “Because I was selfish,” Because I was irresponsible…”? You probably learned answers like those when you were a child. You didn’t like them, but you...
Read MoreBigger, Better, Faster
What to do for the child who always has to be better than his/her siblings? Needing to be “better than” is another version of a child’s need to win. Dr. Lawrence Cohen, author of Playful Parenting and co-author of The Art of Roughhousing, provides a playful yet effective way to fill this need in a Q&A reprinted from his newsletter with permission: Q & A: I need some good...
Read MoreOvercoming Homework Hurdles
Growing up as a Language of Listening® kid has often given me a different perspective from my peers. Now, as an adult working in childcare, this different perspective is more obvious and useful than ever. I am proud to say, much like my mother, Sandy Blackard, the kids seen as problematic by others are the ones who endear themselves to me. I love to be assigned to these...
Read MoreBad Driver or Being Driven?
I just had the strangest moment while driving. I saw a car tailgating a van as it turned onto a main road. My first reaction was, “Bad driver!” because driving that close scares me, but that thought was suddenly and unexpectedly replaced with a STRENGTH. Given that the car kept the exact same distance from the van during the entire turn and for a short while after, it struck me that...
Read MoreBold. Me?
Would you consider someone who prefers merry-go-rounds to roller coasters, bold? That was me – not bold. It took Eva, master life coach, to wake me up. Now I know what it feels like to have someone point out a STRENGTH you didn’t know you had. I’ve always thought that being nice or cautious holds you back in life, but what can you do if that’s just who you are? Everyone...
Read MoreRestaurant Outburst Reversed
“You can’t go back in until you settle down!” Who hasn’t had to remove their child from a store or restaurant at one time or another? Most of us know what that is like. I happened upon such a scene last night at the downtown Austin holiday stroll apparently just after a mom had removed her 5-year-old son from a restaurant. All I saw was a mom trying to keep her cool while...
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