Parenting Anger: Is it me or them?

Parenting Anger: Is it me or them?

It had been a day filled with tantrums, power struggles and testing, testing, testing. I felt like I was doing all the right things, listening to my kids’ feelings, validating their experience, and extending my patience well beyond what I should need to do. Yet, everything I did felt like the wrong thing. I cut the toast wrong. Hurried them out the door too quickly.  Buckled the car seat...

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Hidden Cause of Your Reactions

Hidden Cause of Your Reactions

"You make me feel..." is not how it works. We are interrelated. Someone says something and you react, but the mechanism is misunderstood. There is a hidden middle step. We each have our own perceptions of the world, and though it seems that we react to what happens around us, our reactions actually come from our perceptions and interpretations instead.  For example, my Grandmother hated...

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Success Training for Toddler Hitting

Success Training for Toddler Hitting

QUESTION: My 2 YO daughter is struggling with hitting. Before this began she was a very timid girl and at play dates would often get run over.   Four months ago I had a baby, and the first time I witnessed my 2 YO hitting was when she hit the baby. She was giving the baby a hug and started getting a little excited which then turned into getting a little too rough with the baby, and when I...

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Gaining Toddler Cooperation – Bed, Bath, Mealtime

Gaining Toddler Cooperation – Bed, Bath, Mealtime

Q: “My biggest parenting challenge at the moment is that my two year old daughter is a little bit strong-willed. Meal times, bath times and basically everything in life is a challenge when she's already decided whether or not she will be doing what I ask. I can negotiate, I can plead and I can try to coax her - all to no avail.   She also has a routine - I'm quite religious about it- I...

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Reclaiming Spontaneity

Reclaiming Spontaneity

  Do you have the freedom to "just do stuff" without overthinking? Here's what stopped me, what STRENGTHs came out of it, and what it's like on the other side of this breakthrough in spontaneity.     Watch:   Audio Only: http://www.languageoflistening.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/2016-08-11CantJustDoStuff_blog.mp3 This is the related blog post I mentioned in the video:...

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Danger-Spotter: Empowering Frightened Kids

Danger-Spotter: Empowering Frightened Kids

For parents whose children are unnerved after having witnessed or even after just hearing about scary events the most important message I have for you is this: Listen, empathize, and trust in your child's resilience.  With your trust, support and coaching, your child can find ways to overcome any challenge and will develop valuable STRENGTHs as a result. After all, bravery and courage...

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