Posts Tagged "calm yourself"

Responding to Rudeness, Stubbornness and Defiance

Responding to Rudeness, Stubbornness and Defiance

Language of Listening® Coach, Camilla Miller of Keeping Your Cool Parenting shares what every parent needs to know when their child is acting out. Reprinted from her blog with permission.   The Most Powerful Way to Handle a Rude, Aggressive or Defiant Child. Her cheeks red, kicking out at anyone who dared come close. “You can’t make me!” she howled. And she was right! This was my...

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“I’m gonna hit him”

“I’m gonna hit him”

My preschooler came out of her room and stomped once. I carried her back to bed. As I turned to leave, she called out: “When we were camping, C wanted to be alone, and I kept at him, and he hurt me. He hit me first. I hit him second. Next time we go camping, I'm going to hurt C.” “Then I'm afraid we can't go camping with C,” I said gently, hoping she would see the error in her ways (but...

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Anger CAN DOs

Anger CAN DOs

When a child is angry, SAY WHAT YOU SEE (SWYS) sounds like this: SWYS: "You didn't like that," or "You're really angry!" Often one objective response is enough to keep you from reacting with anger yourself and to create an opening for the child to communicate more. One of the main principles of SAY WHAT YOU SEE is that everything children say and do is a communication; and that they must continue...

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