Posts Tagged "fault"

From Criticism To Support

From Criticism To Support

"If you needed to lose weight, what would be most motivating?   You are getting chubby. I’m not buying you any more clothes until you lose weight.   Or:   Let’s take a walk after dinner. I’ll let you make the salad. I love you just the way you are, exactly as you are."   —Rachel Macy Stafford   That was how Rachel opened her viral blog post, "To Build (or Break) a...

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Easy Brain Hack: Reversing Guilt

Easy Brain Hack: Reversing Guilt

Yesterday morning, my mom and I were talking about the phrase "I should have known..." It's a family story, full of self-blame, passed down and shared between and within generations. The main problem with this phrase is that it implies that you're somehow wrong for not knowing something. Think about that a minute. At any moment, you either know something or you don't. Because it's in the past,...

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Freedom From “Life Lessons”

Freedom From “Life Lessons”

Remember the little girl who started all this (Language of Listening®) way back at age four when she had a problem at her preschool then suddenly couldn't leave my leg? And I sought help from an internationally known play therapist, Dr. Garry Landreth, because she was only a few months away from starting Kindergarten? By age 26, here's how the world seemed to Colleen as voiced during her...

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New Twist on Blame

New Twist on Blame

Kids know something that we don't. Blame is a valuable power-building tool. That's right. There's actually something good about blame: Blame is a natural power builder. One parent told me about her two young daughters jumping from couch to chair to couch in the living room laughing and yelling at each other, "It's your fault!" "No, it's your fault..."Another shared that her child repeatedly...

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“Not My Fault” Breakthrough

“Not My Fault” Breakthrough

Imagine living in a world where you are supposed to prevent all accidents, never make a mistake and never get sick. I did...until this week when I finally broke through another subconscious belief. Suddenly the automatic reactions of blame and anger I had to spills, broken things, getting things wrong, and even getting sick made sense! I was at exercise class working out my wonderful body when I...

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