Posts Tagged "fear"
Big Reactions To Cancellations
The world is, collectively, going through a very unusual time right now. People all over the world are trying to avoid exposure to a virus that we still don’t understand completely. Schools and offices are closing, social gatherings are being cancelled, and everyone is being asked to work or stay at home. Along with all of these disruptions come lots of feelings: fear for the safety of...
Read MoreFostering Resiliency after a Soul-Crushing Event
Disappointments can be hard to handle, especially if they are your child’s. It’s even harder if you have the automatic urge to protect him or her from disappointment and make things all better. Here is a masterful and touching example written by Rachel Macy Stafford of what happens when you use Language of Listening® coaching skills to follow the child’s lead instead. I...
Read MoreDanger-Spotter: Empowering Frightened Kids
For parents whose children are unnerved after having witnessed or even after just hearing about scary events the most important message I have for you is this: Listen, empathize, and trust in your child’s resilience. With your trust, support and coaching, your child can find ways to overcome any challenge and will develop valuable STRENGTHs as a result. After all, bravery and...
Read MoreUn-Hating
What if we did not believe in hate? Or in vilifying people for any reason? 50 people in Orlando* and countless more would be alive and uninjured today. We can begin to dismantle hate and vilification now, starting by how we explain to ourselves and our children the heartbreaking actions taken by one man, the shooter. If you hate and vilify him and the group of people to whom he claimed loyalty,...
Read MoreNo Friends Allowed!
When you try to SAY WHAT YOU SEE, and “it doesn’t work,” that phrase tells you that you are trying to manage your child’s behavior instead of coaching them. Kids can tell the difference, and so can you by their resistance. Here’s my coaching for Ali from the UK on how to flip a no-way-out situation for her 5 YO into fun. Her little cousin was coming over...
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