Posts Tagged "heard"

Stubborn. Now what?

Stubborn. Now what?

Does stubbornness run in your family? If you are seeing it in your child, you might think they got it from you. Each time I am asked what to do about a stubborn child, my answer is the same: SAY WHAT YOU SEE®. Stubborn is one of those things that we are sure we "see," but is not really happening. However, it is what we are thinking. The descriptive nature of SAY WHAT YOU SEE gets you out of your...

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“I hate you. You’re Mean!”

“I hate you. You’re Mean!”

Do you dread hearing, "I hate you. You're Mean!" from your normally sweet child? Here's what's behind it and a reply to turn things around. What's Behind It Kids often say "I hate you. You're Mean!" to parents, grandparents, or other children in a boundary situation when they can't do or have something they want. Particularly if that phrase troubles you or you have made it a taboo, they say it...

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Anger CAN DOs

Anger CAN DOs

When a child is angry, SAY WHAT YOU SEE (SWYS) sounds like this: SWYS: "You didn't like that," or "You're really angry!" Often one objective response is enough to keep you from reacting with anger yourself and to create an opening for the child to communicate more. One of the main principles of SAY WHAT YOU SEE is that everything children say and do is a communication; and that they must continue...

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