Posts Tagged "personal growth"

3 Steps for Reconnecting with Your Mother

3 Steps for Reconnecting with Your Mother

Your relationship with your mother affects your entire life. If yours is challenging, now is the perfect time to transform it into one of love, respect and connection. When you do, it will transform your life. In a coaching conversation with a young woman about her highly reactive mother, I recommended three steps for transforming their relationship. She graciously gave her permission...

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Stop Reacting, Start Exaggerating

Stop Reacting, Start Exaggerating

“I know what I should do, but I often react, instead of responding with understanding.” For every parent who feels wrong for reacting in the moment, I was right there with you when my kids were little. I’d read all the books, and knew what to do, but there were times when I just couldn’t do it. The thing that made a difference for me was realizing that there had to be...

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When “Can=Have To”

When “Can=Have To”

Whenever I’m nearing a big breakthrough, I can tell. As a belief that I don’t like begins to show up in my life, my energy drops, I withdraw and feel depressed. That makes sense before a breakthrough because at the moment, the belief feels very, very true, which can make it very, very real, and in this case, very, very sad…because I was looking at giving up. Luckily, as a...

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Who Do You Trust?

Who Do You Trust?

A little while ago, I published a blog post about being on the verge of a breakthrough. I talked about feeling foggy and not being able to make major decisions or stay on track and get things done, and how instead of blaming myself or heaping on the guilt, I just remembered the Running Leap and trusted myself.   Knowing about the Running Leap helped me recognize my period of fogginess as...

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Where “Shoulds” Come From (and how to send them back)

Where “Shoulds” Come From (and how to send them back)

Are your “shoulds” really yours? When a “should” comes from you, you nod when you speak it, feel validated when you hear it, and are often willing to fight to defend it, as in, “I should be able to do what I love!” By contrast, “shoulds” that are not yours create feelings of pressure and self-doubt, as in “I should be doing more.” So...

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