Posts Tagged "self-motivation"
Motivation Formula—Part 2: When Kids Don’t Care About a Clean Room
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Self-motivation is natural and automatic, unless you’ve been taught that it’s “making yourself do something you don’t want to do.” In my previous post, Motivation Formula & How to Use It—Part I, I explained what self-motivation actually is and how it works. My simple formula for self-motivation is: Want + Possible = Action A reader tested this out...
Read MoreMotivation Formula & How to Use It – Part 1
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When my daughter Betsy was in middle school, she told me through a flood of tears that she was sure she had no self-motivation. She couldn’t make herself do things she didn’t want to do. Yep, that’s the message I’d inadvertently been sending: making yourself do things you don’t want to do IS self-motivation. Of course, I was applying it to myself as well, and it led...
Read MoreDismantling Problems
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Not all problems are problems, unless you are an imperfectionist. Then all problems are equal, and each one “has to” be fixed. When I woke up staring at the dead bugs in my ceiling lamp, I suddenly realized that despite all the growth I’ve had around perfectionism, at first glance, I was still seeing problems everywhere I looked! Little ones and big ones that all needed to be...
Read MoreHow Things Really Work
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“Do what you should, and things will work out.” Does that sound familiar to you? When this belief statement came up in a private coaching session with a client I recognized it immediately because I was raised to believe it, too. “Do what you should, and things will work out,” was touted as the basic formula for success and was a close relative of the mid-western...
Read MoreWhen “Can=Have To”
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Whenever I’m nearing a big breakthrough, I can tell. As a belief that I don’t like begins to show up in my life, my energy drops, I withdraw and feel depressed. That makes sense before a breakthrough because at the moment, the belief feels very, very true, which can make it very, very real, and in this case, very, very sad…because I was looking at giving up. Luckily, as a...
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