Posts Tagged "strength"

Blooper Video – Toddler Tea Party

I hope you get a kick out of this video snippet of my attempts at "guidance" in the years before Language of Listening®. This is where I started, and why I'm not kidding when I say, "If I can do it, anybody can!" For all the other moms (and dads) who judge themselves harshly, this is my gift to you! - Warmly, Sandy     P.S. As you can see, despite my judgments, questions, directions...

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Now That I Know…

Now That I Know…

"Every parent should know this!" That was my first thought over 20 years ago, when I learned the principles and practices of relationship-based parenting from Dr. Garry Landreth. A live coaching session with a mother of a 1-year-old daughter and 3-year-old son reminded me of that phrase. This was her description of her son's behavior in her initial inquiry, shared with permission: Whenever he...

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On-Time with Empowered Children

On-Time with Empowered Children

Would you like to be able to make sure things get done on time without rushing or over-managing your children? How about putting perfectionism aside and providing guidance without criticism or negative correction? Here are the 7 suggestions that I shared with readers of Rachel Macy Stafford's powerful Hands Free Mama blog at her request in the comments section of her post "The Manager In My...

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Where “Shoulds” Come From (and how to send them back)

Where “Shoulds” Come From (and how to send them back)

Are your "shoulds" really yours? When a "should" comes from you, you nod when you speak it, feel validated when you hear it, and are often willing to fight to defend it, as in, "I should be able to do what I love!" By contrast, "shoulds" that are not yours create feelings of pressure and self-doubt, as in "I should be doing more." So how do you pick up guilty "shoulds," how can you send them...

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I want it! You’re not my friend anymore!

I want it! You’re not my friend anymore!

Do these situations sound familiar? At an in-service training I did for preschool teachers, I was asked a few questions about children fighting. These could come up at home or at school, so I wanted to share them with you. Although these sample responses were designed for younger children, they actually apply to older children as well. That's no surprise when you remember that the Language of...

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