Posts Tagged "threat"

Fight-Flight-Freeze: A Natural Ladder from Anxiety to Freedom

Fight-Flight-Freeze: A Natural Ladder from Anxiety to Freedom

Our fight-flight-freeze response is much maligned. An article in Psychology Today says this "survival-oriented acute stress response" offers three options that amount to: battle, escaping, or becoming paralyzed and "numbing out." All three have negative connotations in our culture; and since none rely on reason, no wonder we see this fight-flight-freeze response as a primitive piece of mental...

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Part 3 – What’s Perfect About Perfectionism

Part 3 – What’s Perfect About Perfectionism

Where does imperfectionism come from? The short answer is "you." In Part I, I said that perfectionism should actually be called imperfectionism because it's all about finding imperfections in order to make things perfect. Then in Part 2, I gave you tools for becoming a true perfectionist — someone who finds the perfection that is already there. Now in Part 3, you can use those tools to help you...

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Blooper Video – Toddler Tea Party

I hope you get a kick out of this video snippet of my attempts at "guidance" in the years before Language of Listening®. This is where I started, and why I'm not kidding when I say, "If I can do it, anybody can!" For all the other moms (and dads) who judge themselves harshly, this is my gift to you! - Warmly, Sandy     P.S. As you can see, despite my judgments, questions, directions...

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“Parenting done right” or “Child done wrong”?

“Parenting done right” or “Child done wrong”?

An image of a return receipt with the caption "Parenting done right" was posted on a social media site after the holidays. The reason for the return of the Wii game was included on the receipt: "Son was put on the naughty list, had to watch it being returned." That receipt inspired a Yahoo Parenting post that set off a storm of comments defending rewards and punishment (even to the point of...

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