Posts Tagged "whining"
What’s Behind Whining?
What’s behind whining? My answer, in a word, is powerlessness. If you think about it, children who are confident they can get what they want, ask; children who think asking won’t work, whine. They have to because by nature, children are driven to communicate what they want, whether they can have it or not. This is explained by the first premise of Language of...
Read MoreI want it NOW!
“I want it NOW!!!” This demand was a clear signal to Michelle Amriel, one of our instructors in training, to go beyond validation to meet her child’s need for power. Here’s her story: I had the opportunity to use Language of Listening this afternoon, and it worked like a charm :)) I asked my 5-year-old if he was hungry for dinner. He said, “Yes!” I...
Read MoreWhining: Can You Be Helpless?
It’s easy to smile and say, “Sure!” when a child asks you for help pleasantly. But what about when the child whines and says “I can’t”? If that puts you on edge, this article is for you. What stops us from helping children who are acting helpless is the belief that by providing help we will be affirming that they need it. But if we withhold assistance and...
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