Posts Tagged "problem-solving"
Part 2 – What’s Perfect About Perfectionism
How do you find the perfection in everything, even things you don't like? Here's how we did it in the previous post with "perfectionism," the kind you didn't like. In Part 1, you experienced: 1. Starting from where you are—believing "perfectionism" is a flaw 2. Looking at perfectionism objectively—discovering it's not what you thought, it's actually imperfectionism 3. Finding the...
Read MoreBeing Nice or Not?
Telling children, "Be nice!" can have unexpected consequences. You probably know that the non-specific command, "Be nice!" is not particularly helpful for children. But worse than that, it can result in the opposite behavior. Here's how: When "Be nice!" is spoken in a corrective or threatening tone, as in "Be nice [or else]!" kids hear it as, "Do whatever it takes to keep the peace." Without...
Read MoreHow do I get my child to stop name-calling?
In response to our post, Teasing & Name-calling, Amerin (children 7, 9, 11) asked a question that may have come up for you, too. We are so glad she asked, because it's normal to hit growth points like this when you are committed to mastering Language of Listening® to create deeper connections and more supportive relationships with your children, and weren't raised that way...
Read MoreBlooper Video – Toddler Tea Party
I hope you get a kick out of this video snippet of my attempts at "guidance" in the years before Language of Listening®. This is where I started, and why I'm not kidding when I say, "If I can do it, anybody can!" For all the other moms (and dads) who judge themselves harshly, this is my gift to you! - Warmly, Sandy P.S. As you can see, despite my judgments, questions, directions...
Read More“Mommy, why are you crying?”
When it comes to expressing emotions in front of your child, how much is too much? Recently, a parent asked about expressing strong emotions like sadness or anger. She's going through a rough time in her life, and was worried that she was crying in front of her child too often. She is also arguing with her husband a lot, and she wondered if I thought parents should limit those kinds of...
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